Father traumas are everywhere. You are not alone in this resentment.

As many men in modern societies, I have witnessed these pains from the wounded feminine. And I would say this applies to a lot of women (and men). Men see the effects as demands and expectations, many times unrealistic and/or contradictory in nature. This is not meant as criticism towards women or to glorify masculine reactivity. Men must continue to focus on their work; set goals, clarify purpose, accomplish, provide, staying attuned to both the environment and our bodies. Less distractions like inhumane work schedules and chasing women/sex.

Signs of father wounds in women:

1. The demand for perfection. Although most men want a reflection and being measured to know if we are on track, unrealistic demands can have a devastating effect on men’s self-worth, and serves as a breeding ground for toxic masculinity and incel culture.

2. The trust issue. I would be bold enough to claim that what a man loves in a woman is her vulnerability and openness. But trust is gained in drops, and lost in buckets. Trust issues can keep men on the edge, always in the need to prove they can be trusted. Look at it as a test on your patience. On the other side, men can also see and feel the traumas left in women by previous relationships and/or father wounds. Be empathetic, it’s not easy to be a trusting woman nowadays.

3. A naive woman is a sexy red flag. Innocence has a sexy connotation, but apart from that, I have never quite understood why womem’s naïveté triggered me so much and why they would carry an extreme fear of being alone/single. Jumping into new relationships and underestimating the intentions of other men. We have to accept our differences; men are usually fixed and women are usually fluid. See it as a challenge: Naïveté is where the man steps up in love; from listening to leading.

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by Malcolm GladwellMalcolm Gladwell (The tipping point)
Transactive memory is part of what intimacy means. In fact, Wegner argues, it is the loss of this kind of joint memory that helps to make divorce so painful. "Divorced people who suffer depression and complain of cognitive dysfunction may be expressing the loss of their external memory systems", he writes. "They once were able to discuss their experiences to reach a shared understanding... They once could count on this access to a wide range of storage in their partner, and this, too, is gone... The loss of transactive memory feels like losing a part of one's own mind".

Glede
– et dikt av Luna

Glede er grønt. Og kanskje litt sånn gult.

Fordi sola er gul. Glede lukter søtt! Lukter blomster.

Glede smaker friskt. Glede er en fruktshake.

Glede er mykt og kanskje litt sånn pelsete.

Glede er like stort som et helt land! Kanskje like stort som Norge.

Glede er en fin lyd. Som favorittsangen sin! Eller lyden av en bekk!

Glede er et gult piano. Glede er å lage kort til andre.

Glede er et fly! Høyt oppe og svevende.

For glede er en gepard med hvite vinger.

Som gjør alle rundt seg glade.

Og at alle slemme blir snille.

This frog has been in a long hibernation. But do you now hear its ribbet? 🐸

 

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